The covenant we keep here
This is the whole of it. Not red tape, just the few things brothers agree to so a man can be honest here without being hunted. Each one says what keeping it looks like and what crossing it looks like. You agree to it once, when you take your seat.
A man cannot be honest in a room where he might be hunted. Every line below exists so you can say the true thing out loud and walk toward the Lord instead of toward danger. Put on the full armor of God, and with this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying. Ephesians 6:11-18.
The covenant
This is not a dating space and not a sexual space
You are here to be honest with God and with your brothers about same sex attraction, and to walk toward healing. You are not here to find a man. Everything else below follows from this one.
Keeping it
Naming your struggle plainly. Asking a brother to pray with you. Telling the truth about a hard week.
Crossing it
Flirting. Fishing for who is single. Treating another man's honesty as an opening.
No contact information, anywhere
No emails, phone numbers, handles, usernames, links or outside apps. This is the one hard line the room holds for you, so no brother can be pulled somewhere private where nobody can help him.
Keeping it
Keeping your words inside this room and letting the room do its work.
Crossing it
Name at gmail. A number spelled out in words. Find me on the other app.
No sexual content and no solicitation
Say what you struggle with. Do not narrate it and do not invite another man into it. One honest sentence about temptation strengthens a brother. A scene feeds him.
Keeping it
I am fighting lust this week and I am losing more than I am winning.
Crossing it
Explicit detail. Fantasy. Asking a brother what he is into.
What is said here stays here
What a man confesses here is his. Do not carry it anywhere else. Every brother gives his word on this when he takes a seat.
Keeping it
Praying about what you read and never repeating it.
Crossing it
Screenshots. Repeating a brother's confession outside the room.
Be who you say you are
You can be anonymous here. A handle instead of your name is fine. An invented man, an age you are not, or a second account is not. You must be 18 or older.
Keeping it
A handle, a true story, and as much of your real name as you choose to show.
Crossing it
A fictional man. A second account. Anyone under 18.
Truth and gentleness travel together
We do not soften what scripture says about sexual holiness, and we do not swing it at a brother who is already on the floor. Correct a man the way you would want to be corrected on your worst day.
Keeping it
Saying the hard thing plainly, then staying with him afterward.
Crossing it
Contempt. Mockery. Preaching at a man instead of praying with him.
We are brothers, not clinicians
This room is prayer, honesty and accountability. It is not therapy or emergency care. If a man is in danger he needs real help where he is standing, not a thread.
Keeping it
Praying with a brother and telling him plainly when he needs more help than we can give.
Crossing it
Giving medical or clinical direction. Promising to carry what only the Lord and trained help can.
If something is wrong, report it
Nobody reads over your shoulder here. That means the room depends on brothers speaking up. If a man's words trouble you, report them and staff will look.
Keeping it
Reporting the message and letting staff do their work.
Crossing it
Warning other men quietly instead of telling staff.
What is actually blocked, and what is not
Two things are blocked, and only two
Contact information and sexual content or solicitation cannot be posted. Everything else you write goes up the moment you write it, with no queue and nobody approving it first.
A blocked draft is never lost
If something is stopped, you keep every word you typed and you are told what stopped it. Nothing is filed anywhere and nobody is told. Edit the one part and post it.
Nobody is watching your conversations
Rooms and private messages are between brothers. Staff step in when a brother reports something, and can then remove content or act on an account.
If the covenant is broken
The draft is stopped
Most of it ends here. The unsafe words never reach another brother, and you are told plainly what happened.
A brother talks to him
A pattern gets a direct conversation, not a form letter.
Content comes down
Something that breaks the covenant is removed, with the reason recorded.
The seat is paused or closed
A man who keeps pushing at brothers loses his seat. This room exists so men can be honest without being hunted.
Where the rest of it is written down
How this room is kept safe is on the Safety page. What we keep and what we never do with it is in the Privacy Policy, and the legal side of membership is in the Terms.