Privacy in this Christian brotherhood
This is the full privacy policy of The Steadfast Lounge, written plainly so you know exactly what happens with your information before you take a seat. Men come here to be honest without being hunted, and honesty cannot grow where a man is guessing about who is watching. Every word below exists so you never have to guess. Effective 12 September 2026.
What a man confesses here stays here. That is the promise the whole room is built on, and this page is simply that promise written out in full. You can be honest here without being hunted here.
Why privacy matters in this room
What this page is
This is the full privacy policy of The Steadfast Lounge, written plainly so you know exactly what happens with your information before you take a seat. A man cannot be honest if he is guessing about who is watching. So here it is, in order, with nothing hidden in legal fog.
Why privacy matters here
Men come into this room carrying same sex attraction and sexual brokenness, and for many of them this is the first place they have ever said it out loud. If a brother's honesty leaked beyond these walls, it could cost him his marriage, his work, his church or his name. We treat that weight as sacred. Privacy is not a feature here. It is the ground the room is built on.
Anonymous by default
You appear under a chosen handle unless you decide otherwise. Your email address is never shown to another member. Your real name and city stay hidden unless you choose to show them on your profile, and you can change your mind at any time. The room knows you as a brother, not as a record.
What we collect
We hold only what the room needs to work as a room. Here is the full account of it, with nothing left vague.
What we collect when you join
Your email address and the details needed to sign you in, or the basic account details returned when you use Google. Your profile answers, chosen handle and photo if you add one. Your recorded agreement to the membership terms, with the date and version you accepted.
What we collect as you use the room
Your posts, comments, reactions, prayer requests, testimonies, journal entries, devotional entries, reading plans, goals, commitments, chat messages, mentor requests and the invitations you send or receive. This is the content of your walk here, and it is held so the room can work as a room.
What we collect about activity
We record how brothers move through the lounge: which pages and rooms are opened, which prayer requests and messages are read, how long a man spends in each place and which welcome room steps he completes. We record the tap and the time. We never record the keystrokes, drafts or typed words that were never saved. We use this to understand what serves brothers and what sits unused, nothing more.
Why we hold it, and what we never do with it
Why we hold any of it
To create your account, to show your chosen identity to your brothers, to run the Community Lounge, Prayer Lounge, Declaration of God's Faithfulness, Journals, Devotionals and 1:1 Moderated Fellowship, to keep the room safe, to answer reports and to meet the law where the law applies. That is the whole list.
What we never do
We do not sell your information. We do not rent it, trade it or share it with advertisers. We do not run advertising in the lounge and we do not profile brothers for marketing. There is no third party quietly watching this room for commercial reasons. A brother's struggle is not a product here, and it never will be.
Who stores it
Our hosting and database provider stores the information on our behalf under their own safeguards. Mentor session requests are shared with the mentor you asked to meet. Beyond that, your information does not leave this house.
Who can see what
What other brothers see
Your handle, your photo if you add one, your profile answers where you have chosen to show them, and the words you post to shared spaces like the Community Lounge, the Declaration of God's Faithfulness and the public prayer wall. A prayer request goes only to the audience you choose for it.
What stays between you and the Lord
Your journal is private by default. You choose which brothers can read it and you can revoke that access at any time. Your devotional entries, goals and weekly commitments are yours. The prayer needs you save in your portal are yours. No ordinary member can open them.
What staff can see, and when
Moderators and administrators may open a reported or reasonably suspected chat, journal, post, prayer request or account when safety requires it, and only for safety, policy enforcement or investigation. Every one of those views is recorded internally with the staff member's name, the item and the time. Staff review is never visible to ordinary members. Power in this room is accountable, the same as everything else.
What administrators alone can see
Personal details like your real name and email are visible to administrators for membership and safety work. A moderator cannot see them unless an administrator grants that permission. The fewer eyes on a man's identity, the better, and the room is built that way on purpose.
How your words are guarded
Checked as you write, and checked again before anything saves
Every place a brother can type is scanned in the app and scanned again on the server before words are published. We block contact details and sexual solicitation. A blocked draft may be held for private staff review, but the original blocked words are never published anywhere.
Invitation email measurements
When staff email an invitation, we record whether the invitation image was loaded and whether its lounge link was opened. Image loading is only an estimate because some inboxes block or preload images. We use these measurements only to understand whether invitations reached men and led them into the lounge.
A suspended brother loses sight of the room
When staff suspend an account, the database itself stops serving him other brothers' posts, comments, reactions, profiles and commitments. He can still see his own writing and nothing more. What you shared in trust does not stay open to a man who broke that trust.
Your choices and your way out
Your choices stay yours
You can edit your profile, change your handle, hide or show your real name and city, delete your own posts and journal entries, revoke journal readers, choose the audience for every prayer request and sign out of every session at once. We encourage that last one, especially on a shared device.
Leaving the room
You can ask us to close your account. When you do, your seat is emptied. Removed material may remain briefly in backups or in safety records, because a room like this must keep an honest history of what staff did and why. Safety records and audit history are kept only as long as they are needed, and backups age out on their own.
How long we keep things
While your account is active, we hold what the room needs to serve you. Afterwards, we keep only what safety records, audit history, legal obligations or short-lived backups require, and nothing beyond that.
Men only, eighteen and older
The Steadfast Lounge is only for men aged 18 or older, and entry is by invitation. We do not knowingly hold information about anyone younger, and any such account is removed when found.
Questions and changes
Questions about this policy can be raised with the administrators through the community. If this policy changes in a way that matters, you will be asked to accept the new version when you next sign in, because a man should always know the terms of the room he is honest in.
The rest of it
How the room itself is kept safe is written out on the Safety Policy, the longer walk through every protection is on How we protect brothers, and the legal side of membership is in the Terms.